What he says: how do u know when lesbian sex is over???
What he means: I’ve never given a woman an orgasm ever in my life
be critical of Anita Sarkeesian all you want but if the fact that she had to cancel a speech at a college because a student threatened a mass shooting isn’t a huge red flag to you about how very much alive misogyny is then you need to get the fuck out of my face
You are literally too stupid to insult.
Translation: I can’t disprove that so you’re stupid.
I can’t disprove that unicorns are real, but that doesn’t make them exist. I know I shouldn’t feed the trolls, but hell, I’ve got a bit of time to kill.
Gamergate is a hate movement that started with a jilted ex of a game dev accusing her of sleeping with a journalist for a good review, when said journalist never reviewed the game in question at all.
Anita Sarkeesian and Brianna Wu have been driven from their homes by death threats and harassment. #Gamergate as a whole has been revealed as a concentrated, concerted effort to harass Zoe Quinn by the aforementioned jilted ex.
And over what? Feminism in video game journalism? Less than half a percent of articles written about video games contain explicit references to sexism, misogyny, or feminism. Every major art form is analyzed in sociopolitical lights. Every major everything is analyzed that way. It’s what criticism is. Feminist criticism is an accepted academic method of analyzing media that has been in use since the late 1700s.
Even if it wasn’t, these people are essentially getting angry about discussions about women having more egalitarian portrayals in games. That’s literally it. Their biggest rallying cry is that men who play games are being shoved into the margins despite being gaming’s core target demographic. Except they fail to notice that adult women are the largest demographic in gaming, and even if they weren’t, it’s not oppressive to be asked to maybe not use women as sex objects in games. It’s not oppressive for some things not to be about men and their entertainment.
The threats made against Sarkeesian are credible, and the FBI agrees with me on that one. She isn’t the only one to receive credible death and rape threats recently (or in the past) and she won’t be the last.
I suspect you’re not the type who actually cares about facts, however. I suspect you’re one of the people who urge us to “look at both sides” of the issue, but honestly? When one side sends death, rape, and bomb threats, and the other wants women not to be treated as shitty by the gaming industry as they are, that’s not a debate I’m willing to have.
By the way, humanism is the belief that people have the ability to act ethically without the assistance of theism or supernatural belief. If you want a belief system that’s about ensuring men and women have equal rights and opportunities, that’s feminism.
i’ve written a bit on this topic before. impostor syndrome is rampant in academia: get a lot of university students drunk and listen to all of them—even the most confident & high-achieving—tell you they’re not as clever or worthy as their peers. the system encourages you to tie your identity & self-esteem to academia, and suddenly you feel that your whole self is being weighed up (and found wanting) each time you write or speak. you feel paralysed—and that feeds the self-doubt. vicious circle.
be gentle with yourself. no one is judging you as minutely and savagely as you (i promise). it’s alright to not know, to say something odd or obvious or wrong, to fuck up—to fuck up spectacularly. it’s alright. failure is good. failure is useful, because the goal of learning isn’t to look clever. it’s to have the best possible ideas. you begin with a basic idea, and then you build on it. expressing your thoughts is an opportunity. it’s like conducting an experiment to test a hypothesis. if you don’t test your ideas, you can’t enlarge and improve and refine them. when something goes wrong, you don’t stop testing; you try something else. it’s a process, and it’s never finished. doesn’t matter what other people are doing; they’re on different journeys. all you have to do each day is become a bit smarter than you were yesterday.
academia can be a mindgame; it’ll try to psych you out. for me, the best offence against self-doubt was to fake it. you act like you’re smart and confident and unshakeable even when you don’t believe it. you’ve got to be vigilant and aggressive about it: when a negative thought surfaces, you distract yourself, or you talk back, drown it out, counter it with all the goddamn sunshine ra-ra-ra optimism you can muster. when that voice behind your eyes tells you to shut up or make yourself small, you square your shoulders and look people in the eye, because the person you’re performing has never fucking heard of staying quiet. dare yourself to do things, little things that require bravery, and then reward yourself whatever the outcome. acknowledge constantly how fucking brave you are to keep going when your own brain is trying to intimidate and bully you. in the beginning you’ll hate it—it’s hard and nervewracking and it feels like bullshit; but it’s a hundred times better than self-loathing and guilt and shame. you do it when you’re alone, and then you double it when you’re in an academic setting. and, surprisingly quickly, it sticks. (i’d know.)
this learning process is yours: it’s about getting what you need. focus on your curiosity—because that’s it, that’s what matters: the part of you that wants to find and know and understand, and always comes back for more. the students who succeed aren’t the naturally gifted—i’ve seen too many of them burn out to believe that. it’s the students with curiosity and hard-headed perseverance. every time.
[mental health advice under the cut]